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Let’s hear it for the groom

Let’s Hear it for the Groom

Long gone are the days of the only responsibility of the groom is to show up on the wedding day! Today’s contemporary grooms are getting far more involved with the wedding planning and incorporating THEIR personality in the big event.

Some of the traditional responsibilities of the groom include:

  • Selecting his groomsmen, best man, and ushers
  • Selecting his and his groomsmen’s formalwear
  • Obtaining the marriage license
  • Ordering the wedding bands
  • Hiring the officiant
  • Organizing the rehearsal dinner
  • Finding a DJ or band
  • Take the lead on planning the honeymoon
  • Arranging transportation for the wedding party
  • Buying thank you gifts for his groomsmen



On the wedding day, the groom still has his duties to maintain:

Be present and Stay Sober

The more present you are, the better and more memorable the day will be. Eat a good breakfast to give you energy and keep drinking to a minimum. Stay off of your phone, unless it involves something wedding related. Show up on time to each and every event.

Give your Bride a Gift

Whether you share a private moment together before the ceremony, or have it delivered to the bride on the wedding day or the night before, you and your partner will want to exchange a special gift. Bonus points for including a well thought out love letter to accompany the gift.

The Wedding Bands

The groom is responsible for the wedding bands. You’ll want to hand them off to your best man, who will present them to you during the ceremony.

Tipping Vendors

Tipping your wedding vendors is customary. From wedding planners, to florists, to photographers, and more, a tip is usually expected, and certainly appreciated. To avoid double tipping, be sure to check your contracts, as oftentimes tipping is included in the final cost.

Give a Thank You Toast

There will, undoubtedly, be toasts given at the reception. The groom’s toast generally comes last. Keep it simple. Thank and express your love to everyone that came, including the parents, the wedding party, guests that traveled from far away, and anyone who went above and beyond to make this day so special.

Returning of the Groom/Groomsmen’s Clothing

You’ll want to figure out who will be responsible for returning outfits that have been rented. This person should ensure all pieces of the outfits are accounted for, so you aren’t charged for missing items. Your best man is the best option for this duty.

Enjoy Marital Bliss

Once the wedding has come and gone, take a deep breath and enjoy your spouse. This is just the beginning of your happily ever after!


Photos by Brian Anthony Photography

Brian Anthony Photography

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Following this handy list of to-do’s for the year leading up to your wedding day is sure to keep you on task, on track, and on budget!